“If I see another picture of Tayana Taylor with her flat I-just-gave-birth-two-minutes-ago-stomach I’m going to lose it,” I tell my bff over the phone.
“People need to stop becuz it’s not realistic,” she chimes in.
“I know! It took me a year to lose the baby weight with my first and let’s not even talk about the second.”
“Teyana Taylor is not the norm,” she adds.
“Not even close,” I concur.
A few minutes later I’m off the phone and my husband walks in wanting to know who’s the sexy woman in the pic on my computer screen. I fill him in on the fact that singer/rapper Teyana Taylor gave birth a few months ago, and now she looks like this. But even crazier, I tell him, is that she looked like this just six days after having her baby.
“I’m not hating on her,” I continue, “she looks great, but it’s not right to hold her up as the poster child for what a mom should look like so soon after giving birth when she probably has great genes. Losing baby weight takes time and effort. ”
When I finish he just looks at me like, you don’t believe that do you?
Then he tells me that it wasn’t realistic for me because I ate everything not nailed down. And if I was actually thinking of what I wanted to look like post baby maybe I would have taken a different approach and things would have turned out different.
“No, she’s naturally fit,” I respond through clenched teeth.
He’s not trying to hear it.
“Let’s call Tarik!” I suggest.
Tarik Tyler is a fitness expert and friend who used to train kids for Shaquille O’Neal’s fight against childhood obesity initiative. He knows fitness; he’ll know who’s right.
I get him on the phone and start explaining that there’s a question about Teyana Taylor’s post baby body and if it’s realistic for a mom to look like her so soon after giving birth?
“Not only is it realistic, it happened,” he says.
What’s he saying?
“Of course, it’s realistic for a woman who is committed to a consistent regimen of eating right and training. The problem is that’s not the average woman.”
I’m quiet because I ate my ass off throughout most of my pregnancy and hiked on occasion.
“Women see Teyana’s pictures and wanna get together and talk about how unrealistic it is when they should be asking how she did it. There’s a lot of fitness shaming.”
“People who workout consistently and eat right are looked upon as extreme, but the ones who kinda eat right and kinda work out are considered normal. We expect people to have our same level of weakness.” He says we also use celebrities as scapegoats by complaining that we don’t have the same time to workout as they do, or a trainer, or a chef. He maintains, “If a mom wants to look like Teyana Taylor she needs a solid training and exercise program, she has to eat right, and she must stick to the game plan. No excuses.”
I get off the phone willing to admit that he and my hubby are both right. I guess it is realistic after all. I’ve just never been that disciplined. The good news is seeing Teyana is definitely motivation to try to be better. I doubt that I’ll ever look like her, and I’m good with that…but at least now when I see her photos I can congratulate her on earning that bod!