Continue Reading" />

Kimberly Durdin On Discovering The Legacy Of Home Birth.

“I felt like I was hit by a mack truck,” says Kimberly Durdin, describing her disappointment over having to get a C-section with her first child some 25 years ago. She was planning to give birth with midwives at a hospital, but because her baby was breech, it meant an automatic C-section. A few years passed and when she became pregnant with her second child, she knew she didn’t want to go back to a hospital for fear of another C-section. However, midwives at birthing centers where she lived in Brooklyn, were forbidden from working with her because it posed too much of a risk. Finally, someone referred her to a home midwife named Tioma Allison because they weren’t governed by the same rules. After one interview with Tioma, Kimberly was convinced that it was the way to go.
“As soon as Tioma told me that she had her first baby in a hospital and she delivered her second at home herself, I knew I wanted her to deliver my baby,” Kimberly says, adding that Tioma’s Ivy League training–she’d been educated at Yale and Columbia–didn’t hurt either.

From there, Kimberly started in Tioma’s care, and thus began regular meetings at each other’s house. Things were going great until her seventh month of pregnancy, when she had a conversation with some friends.

“I told a married couple that I knew–the wife was a OBGYN and the husband was an ophthalmologist–that I was going to have my baby at home and the wife looked at me like I was crazy and screamed, ‘That’s a terrible idea!’”

Suddenly, Kimberly was shook, and all the wonderful feelings she had about having her baby at home were replaced with doubt. What if there was an emergency? With her confidence gone, she tried to get out of it. Eventually, she expressed her fears to Tioma, and her feelings began to change.
“Tioma explained that emergencies don’t happen in the blink-of-an-eye, and nine times out of 10, there’s plenty of time to get to a hospital, if such a complication should arise,” recalls Kimberly. “Even more rare is the need to be transported in an ambulance.”

Another unexpected boost came from the husband of the OBGYN.

 

One day, he pulled Kim aside and explained to her that his wife’s advice was influenced by her own experience being sued multiple times at a high-risk practice. But since Kim was healthy and low-risk, she should go ahead and birth at home like she wanted.

 

With renewed confidence, Kim sojourned on, and in the end everything worked out better than she planned because she delivered a health baby and she felt incredible after. It was the type of experience that she wishes more black women would consider because it’s a return to the way we used to birth- surrounded by our loved ones in a safe environment. Today, Kim has a total of 6 kids (2 born in a hospital, and 4 at home). The experience had such a profound effect on her that she got out of a career in fashion design and became an international Board Certified Lactation Consultant, doula, childbirth advocate, and currently, she’s only months away from completing her training to become a midwife.

 

“It’s been a beautiful journey,” Kim says of what has turned into over two decades of working with moms. What she’s most excited about now is the opportunity to be counted among the small, but growing number of black midwives, women like Jennie Joseph of Florida, Tioma Allison, her first midwife, and the many thousands of “granny” midwives who helped birth thousands of babies in this country. “We’re starting to realize that hospitals are new for black women and at one time all our babies were born at home with midwives. It’s such a powerful legacy and I’m so happy that it’s  starting to come back.”

 

For women interested in learning more about home birth, Kimberly advises that you internet search midwives in your area, ask friends who’ve used midwives for their recommendations, and go to organizations like the International Center For Traditional Childbearing (ICTC) that have a directory of black midwives and doulas.

 

Also, to support Kim in completing her training as a midwife, make a donation to her at gofundme.com/reclaimmidwifery

 

 

4 Comments
  • Sherry Payne
    June 25, 2016

    Kuddos to Kimberly for embarking on a journey that is so critical to the future health and wellbeing of Black mothers and babies. We must restore our community midwives.

    • Erickka Sy Savané
      July 2, 2016

      Agreed, and agreed!

  • Kizmold68c
    February 10, 2017

    http://santaverde-kosmetyki.pl/uprawnienia-elektryczne.htm
    Purchasing a used or new car might be a difficult method should you not know what you will be doing. By educating yourself about automobile purchasing before you go to the dealer, you may make issues less difficult for your self. The following advice will help your next purchasing getaway become more pleasurable.

    Usually provide a auto technician coupled when buying a new motor vehicle. Car dealers are popular for selling lemons and you do not desire to be their following sufferer. If you can not have a auto technician to check out vehicles along, no less than make sure that you have him look at your final choice prior to buying it.

    Know your boundaries. Prior to starting shopping for your next vehicle or truck, make a decision how much you can manage to pay out, and follow it. Don’t overlook to incorporate curiosity about your estimations. You will probably shell out around twenty percent as an advance payment also, so be ready.

    Just before seeing a dealership, know what type of motor vehicle you desire. Study all of you possibilities before buying in order to decide what works best for your finances and family requires. Do your homework to find out exactly how much you should be paying for any probable automobile.

    Before signing any agreement spend some time to read each and every series, such as the small print. If you have something listed that you just do not comprehend, will not indication up until you have an solution that you simply fully grasp. Unsavory salesmen are able to use a contract to put a lot of service fees that were not reviewed.

    Should you maintain the preceding assistance under consideration next time which you go shopping for a vehicle, you will end up more prone to get a full package. Purchasing a car does not have to become headaches. Use the guidelines using this post and you can get the car you want at the great selling price.

  • TimothyFeept
    February 17, 2017

    client

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *


captcha

Please enter the CAPTCHA text