During a recent panel discussion at the SXSW music and film conference called “The New Rules Of Social Stardom,” actress Kerry Washington made it clear, again, that she doesn’t talk about her personal life. That means keeping a tight lip, even when divorce rumors swirl, which they do; and get even louder during awards season when Kerry is often on the red carpet solo. Where is husband Nnamdi, everyone wants to know?
I find myself wondering too because I’m a fan of Scandal and sometimes I think about how her husband feels seeing his wife get it on with two men, white guys at that, each week. I mean, she toned down the sex with Jake, but at one point she had him and the President rotating. Maybe he brushes it off as a part of her job, but we don’t know, and won’t anytime soon.
“If I don’t talk about my personal life, it means I don’t talk about my personal life,” she explained. “That means not only did I not tell you when I was getting married, it also means if somebody has rumors about what’s going on in my marriage, I don’t refute them, because I don’t talk about my personal life.”
Clearly, her rules of social stardom gear towards keeping her private life private, but it’s the opposite of what a lot of today’s celebrity couples are doing. Sooo when it comes to relationship, public or private?
On one hand, you have Chrissy Teigen and John Legend who let it all hang out. You’re going to see them, the dog, the kitchen, everybody kissing. And not to be outdone, we have Ciara and Russell Wilson. I feel like we all knew about their engagement two minutes before it happened.
I was checking it out on instagram getting really caught up in the romance. It starts looking like success in love is all about public display, extreme PDA. But does it mean that it last?
I had my money on Wiz and Amber going the distance, especially since Amber verbally professed her love and twerked it in videos for all of us to see, and I still remember seeing Janet Jackson gushing about Jermaine Dupree on Oprah years ago, thinking, this is it, and where are they now?
But to be fair, we do have some public couples that have been standing the test of time. Will and Jada are pushing on 20 years and they have been open about how they make their marriage work. Ask Jada and she will tell you it’s spicy sex. She told Redbook magazine, “Be sneaky… your girlfriend’s house at a party. The bathroom. A bedroom. Think of places outside that are comfortable to have sex.” Oh, Aunt Jada!
Then we have some private couples like Chris Rock and Malaak, who you never hear anything about, and they break up after almost 20 years. And I’m still shocked at Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck’s split. Which brings me to my next point, Ben Affleck was involved with both J-Lo and Jennifer Garner, and had a different approach to each. With Garner he was very private, with J-Lo he was public, now I’m not trying to cast a shadow on the man’s character, but both relationships crashed. Soooo I guess the truth is that public or private doesn’t determine the success of your relationship. What might is making sure each individual in the couple is doing the work.
As for Kerry, her marriage is still standing so obviously she’s doing the work, on and off screen. Go Kerry!